importance of relationships usually does not occur to the individual
until it is too late to save it. The relationship between a husband
and wife, the relationship between a child and its parents, the
relationship between in-laws, the relationship between siblings,
between friends, between couples - these are not always as rosy
as it might seem to be on the outside. The problem lies in the issues
of problems not brought out and instead kept buried and unspoken.
The result is tension, feelings of hate and anger that can turn
harmful when it is given vent to. Nothing spoils a relationship
more than silence. It is when two people do not bring out their
problem, when they don't speak out to the one person who might perhaps
understand them more than anyone that a relationship goes sour.
is not uncommon at Bodhi to see two people - with murder on their
minds towards each other - come in and then after counselling come
out hand in hand. It is just a matter of talking out their problems.
Sometimes it might be the fear of too much expectations from an
elder, sometimes the fear of disappointing someone one cares about
which acts against the better motives and results in failure. At
Bodhi, when such cases come, the solution commonly found is to have
the people to talk to each other and bring out the epicentre of
the tension. Majority of times it is just a minor effort on the
participants' part that makes all the difference, and that too just
a few words at times.
Bodhi, through counselling, people are encouraged to open up, speak
out their problems, to build better relationships, and to develop
social skills. The strength of any relationship depends on the trust
and understanding that exists between the people, and that is what
Bodhi aims to strengthen.